Zig Ziglar used to say this all the time…”You need a check up from the neck up to help you get rid of stinkin’ thinkin’…
For a long time I just thought that was nothing more than a cute catch phrase…and it is and was. But, it is so much more than that.
How many times have you or someone you know gotten stuck with a conclusion that has no chance of turning into life rewarding or thriving behaviors? Hmmm?
You may have unmet and often unarticulated expectations about your relationship. The longer those expectations go unaddressed and resolved, the more likely they are to ossify…sometimes to the point of petrification.
You may have different expectations about how to and how often to express love and affection and sex. You may be using sex as a reward or a punishment…How’s that working for you?
You may be stuck in the selfish and self-centered “What’s In It for Me?” syndrome which never delivers what it advertises or what you really want.
Perhaps you have not done Gary Smalley’s 5 Love Languages quiz in awhile and are not delivering what blesses your mate…often and well.
You may have drifted into acting-out behaviors seeking to fill felt needs in inappropriate ways.
Listen, the Devil will find a shiny target in your life and will do his dead level best to wedge his way into your life with tempting language like, he/she will never know…go ahead and cheat. Anytime you want to lean into the temptations and go away from God, be sure the Devil will happily give you a ride.
So suck it up, buttercup. Renew your Servant’s Heart…find our what blesses your spouse’s heart and do it often and do it well. Focus your energies and efforts on him or her. I dare you to see what happens when you do.
“We all need a daily check up from the neck up to avoid stinkin thinkin which ultimately leads to hardening of the attitudes.” Zig Ziglar
