Nuggets

There must be some new skills I don’t have…After taking my fearless assessment of what I need to do to BE a better relationship/marriage partner, where can I get get the skills I don’t have? Here is how it begins: · Learn to listen and communicate effectively · Committing to using “I” messages with each […]

The AWARENESS Stage of Relationships So, what went wrong…it seemed so right in the beginning. How could I have missed it so badly? How about this, maybe your failed relationship was not about HER of HIM, maybe it is YOU who can’t get it right yet. Please do not be afraid to fearlessly examine this

Every couple, every where, all the time…here’s a news flash for you. The sappy romantic stage of relationships ALWAYS wears off. We call this the Power Struggle Stage. This is where the NEW begins to wear off. Some of the polish I FELL in love with starts to tarnish. Manners get sloppy. Many of the

It’s been awhile since we looked at how relationships develop in this country. It’s time to do a reprise. In the USA culture, the attraction mechanism usually begins with the viseral elements of attraction. I call them the 5 ‘goods’. Does He/She…Look good…Feel good…Sound good…Taste good…Smell good? Well, then, this must be THE ONE for

I have never known a new relationship where both parties were like calves looking at a new gate. (I’m not even sure I know what that means, but most new couples and newly weds either have similar agreements or…and I’m certain about this:) Each party has pretty good idea of how the relationship is going

OK, God, I read in Romans today, Be joyful in hope. But sometimes the circumstances of my life (and the condition of this world) make it difficult for me to be joyful. When I’m having a hard time finding Joy, please help start with Hope. Keep me hopeful no matter what may come, that I can

There is a lot of ink spent on talking about finding a Soul Mate. It is almost ethereal in its grab bag approach about the luck of the draw you might wander about until you FIND your soul mate. Please let me disabuse you of the notion that you can FIND your Soul Mate. If

An event we celebrate every four years in our country. It signals the beginning of something. Will it be a fresh start or more of the same ol’ same ol’ with different faces and voices? Will it be political revolution of just lipstick on a pig? Will it be a cultural revolution or spiritual revival?

If you have been mining for gold with us for the past few years, you will recognize some of these NUGGETS I’m going to reprise for the next few months. Just in case you don’t remember this question, and if you are in a relationship or a marriage, ‘why exactly did you choose the other

Do you have your wedding anniversary celebration down to a science? We do. For 38 years now Barb and I have taken turns planning wedding anniversaries. She planned our honeymoon and I then began with the odd numbered years. This year is 37 for us and I’ve got a doozy planned…she had no idea. While