Nuggets

All too many of us come to marriage with the notion that we are in it to be served. When each of us is independently able to care for our most common of all needs, that is an easy error to make. However, when either of us loses some capacity, as I have recently with […]

When Barb and I got married, we had no intimacy…we thought we did, but alas, all we had was sex. We had sex, and for awhile that was enough, but that’s an outward type of intimacy. On the inside, we barely had any connection at all, and we were busy teaching others how without really

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. Ephesians 4:29 I’m laid up recovering from surgery for an Achilles’ tear. Avoid that if at all possible. It’s an onerus surgery and it

This is good stuff…pay attention! Adapted from Jill Savage, CEO, Hearts at Home Every Friday is date day for my husband and me. It’s a decision we make in advance. Learning to make advance decisions can be one of the best strategies for protecting your marriage and keeping it a priority. In 28 years of

What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate. Mark 10:9 NASB I bet you are not aware of the research that has shown that about two-thirds of all divorces today are occurring in low-conflict marriages. Many of these come from what we like to call parallel marriages. Couples get their mail, eat, sleep,

A departure from our usual blog on creating and sustaining a healthy marriage to consider the new world into which we were thrust yesterday. Make no mistake, our commitment has not changed, and it won’t. In April this year, we were privileged to be with the Spring Retreat sponsored by the Development arm of Southern

Hatred stirs up quarrels, but love makes up for all offenses. Proverbs 10:12 It hadn’t been a good morning. Just before breakfast they had blown up at each other. Oh, did that sound like any of you? It goes something like this… Actually it goes EXACTLY like this: “You are so self-centered and insensitive,” she

But forget all that— it is nothing compared to what I am going to do. Isaiah 43:18 The little town of Scottsboro, AL, is the home of Unclaimed Baggage Center where all the luggage that makes the rounds at the baggage claim area in the airport goes when no one claims it. Quite a business.

Be still in the presence of the Lord, and wait patiently for him to act. Psalm 37:7 Cheerfully adapted from Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, some of our favorite folks: How many of you are familiar with John Ortberg? He is one of the most down to earth writers on heavenly issues you’ll ever find.

Ask yourself- are you more of an inflamer or a shutting downer? An inflamer is one who tends to get agitated when upset, raise one’s voice, gets anxious, gets aggressive, talks faster, etc. For example- the inflamer externalizes his or her upset or anxiety and may put others on the defensive. A shutting downer is