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Stage 2 of Relationships – Power Plays A young woman rushed in excitedly to tell her Mom, “I have found a man just like Dad!”  Her Mom replied, “What do you want from me, sympathy?” Dude, you told me one of the selection criteria was about my parents having an influence on the person I […]

Are there differences in how you and your mate do some things which act like fingernails down a chalk board? How about for dating me? For those of you who have never seen a chalk board, it was usually a black or green slate board upon which we wrote with chalk in school (like sidewalk

Stage 1 of Relationships – Romance A woman marries a man expecting he will change, but he doesn’t. A man marries a woman expecting that she won’t change, and she does. Do you remember what it was like when you first fell in love?  (By the way, isn’t that a funny word…fell?)  When I think

My bride, The Gorgeous Redhead, and I recently decided to take the advice we give couples who just to want to make their relationships better. I told you a bit about this a couple weeks ago. You have heard us say moving from “What’s In It For Me?” to “How Can I Serve You Best?”…is

Ask anyone today, “What is truth?” and you’re sure to start a sparked conversation. Is it absolute? Is it relative? Is it objective? Is it subjective? Is it completely personal to the individual? Try it on a university campus and you’re likely to receive laughter, scorn, and derision. The concept of truth has clearly fallen

I like coming back to this topic periodically and am doing it so now because my bride aka The Gorgeous Redhead just recently finished a weekend with a couple doing this very exercise and decided we needed to redo ours as well. It works like this. Make two lists: a) things I am willing to

In the English language, ‘love’ is a catch-all term for many different kinds of feelings. This is only partly why English speakers are so comfortable slinging it around. If love knows no boundaries, then surely there’s no language barrier that could prevent us from being on the same page about what it means. In theory,

Most of us start life believing other people…beginning with ‘Mom’s’ sole purpose is to make me happy. When that morphs into adult relationships, the sentiment prevails. Your job is to make me happy. What’s in it for me? Some call this the WIIFM syndrome. Problem is, happiness is an inside job. Happiness is a choice,

A simple question. Do you live in Groundhog Day? One day following another…exactly the same. Get up, do your bathroom stuff, make coffee, maybe have breakfast, get kids’ lunches ready and them off to school, get ready for work…”bye, Love you…” and Hi Ho Hi Ho it’s off to work you go. End of the

If you have or have had a two year old child, you know something about anger. It is a natural reaction when the child doesn’t get what he or she wants. I knew a little redheaded girl many years ago who would get so angry she would hold her breath until she passed out and